#FanEtiquette101: How To Keep Social Media A Safe Space For Everyone

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How on Earth is it still not common knowledge to treat people – including artists who are also human beings just like everyone else – with respect and kindness?

Not your fandom, not your problem

Honestly though, how many fan wars could’ve been avoided if we just kept to our own fandoms and minded our own businesses? What another artist is doing is none of your business – you are another artist’s stan for a reason, and that is because they are the ones you choose to support. Why bother updating yourself on every move by another artist? Dig up your own artist’s statistics and achievements, not another group’s – and go camp on your own artist’s updates instead of another’s, please.

Build up your artist – but not at the expense of others

Sure, go ahead and celebrate your victories – you and your favourite artist definitely deserve everything you have gotten because of the hard work you have all given. What isn’t right, however, is bringing down another artist as you do so. We mean, it’s not impossible to celebrate without having to compare your artist to others, right?

Don’t be a party pooper

In relation to the previous point, always remember that life is a two-way road. Let others celebrate their achievements if you want them to let you celebrate yours too. Just because you have achieved the same thing – or even greater – doesn’t mean you get to undermine others’ celebrations. To you, ten million views might be little, but to some fandoms, such a number already goes a long way. Get off that “holier than thou” attitude and just let people be happy, Martha. Remember, you can’t be number one if there isn’t a number twenty-five on the charts.

Random fancams are not always funny

… especially when the topic is sensitive. In this day and age, perhaps everyone who has access to the Internet – K-Pop fan or not – had come across such quips along with captions like “Maybe if they stanned *name of artist*” or “maybe if they did it like *name of artist*” on their news feed.

For some reason, K-Pop stans find it so amusing to always respond with a fancam, and as fun as it is to discover a new group or artist through it, it becomes a nuisance when the topic is very far – and more so, when the topic is sensitive. That is why we beg you to stop yourself from replying to issues covering things like an artist’s injury or passing with these things.

Trust us, nobody other than your insensitive self (and maybe those who also have the same heart as yours) is laughing at your fancam quip, sweetheart.

Just… disengage

Trust us when we say that you are better off not commenting or fighting someone, especially if they are spreading malicious rumors or contents regarding the artist you stan. Interacting with them not only gives them exactly what they’re looking for – *ehem* attention – but it also increases their algorithm. In layman’s terms, you’re only helping them and their malicious comments reach more people – because social networking sites like Twitter and Facebook see these increases of activity on their posts as a sign that their content is relevant.

The same goes for clickbait articles or polls – for the love of God, don’t always fall into the trap of voting for polls just because you see your idol’s name in it. Websites, especially those with polls, generate revenue with your every click on their pages.

This is why some platforms purposely write triggering and controversial content – for example, malicious polls that pit idols against each other in negative topics or headlines that were obviously made to anger audiences and make an artist sound scandalous. Even your constant downvotes will make them successful – and the best you can really do is ignore them, tell more people to ignore them, and let them starve.

Your attention is better off on streaming your favourite group’s music video, albums, or voting in valid poll platforms like Mwave, Star Play, Idol Champ, and the like. Don’t waste them on clout feeders, who will not hesitate to bite the hand that feeds them the moment they realize they can gain more from it.

Stop listening to “what people said”

This is perhaps one of the biggest diseases of K-Pop fandoms – believing “someone said”. “Someone said this fandom is saying bad things about ours”, “someone said this artist is

This crowd mentality further spreads misinformation

But the thing is, did anyone really say it?

Learn to separate the fandom from the artist

Okay, we get it – you have a grudge against another fandom for fighting you in the past. We’re neither stopping or encouraging you from your mission to get revenge since you’re probably old enough to properly discern things yourself. However, dragging the artists they like just because of your hatred towards that other fandom is a huge NO. These idols have never done anything to you – and they do not deserve to have you breathing down their backs for things that other people did. Stop throwing insults at artists whose only connection to your hatred is that they are idolized by someone you don’t like.

Keep in mind that the idols see what you’re saying too

Obviously, they see the things you write in fan cafe – and it should already be obvious because all official artist fan cafes have rules and regulations set on them. The same goes for V Live broadcasts – we mean, you do see them reading and answering to the comments, right?

However, a more rabid and scary place is also open for their access – and by this, we definitely are talking about social networking sites like Twitter and search engines like Naver and Daum. Several idols have already slipped up about their secret accounts – and of course, they also have access to their official ones. Some had even mentioned that they get to see what goes on in Twitter through their relatives’ accounts.

Earlier in the year, Daum made the move to close down their comments section in an effort to weed off the negativity and defamation that happens in that toxic part of the Internet. But really, doesn’t that move show how we fail at being decent human beings? It doesn’t have to reach the point of taking down comments section just to shield artists from the stupidity that happens in it or people, in general, to gather misinformation from it if those who had access to it would shut up and think twice about what they write – but it already did and it showed just how extremely laughable society is.

Thus, keep in mind that they are just out there, lurking. And just like us, idols are also human beings who get hurt at hateful comments. How many artists have gone into extreme dieting after people have lambasted them about their weight or size? How many artists have developed insecurities they didn’t even have before due to other people’s judgments? How many artists have shunned away from doing something they wanted because of what other people were saying? How many artists have we lost because people were not being decent human beings? Countless, we tell you.